Parents Rights articles

 

The following is from the July 12, 1996 edition of the Leader discussing the initial "problem".


Observer articles on "Parents Rights"

  August 13, 1997, METRO, page 1C, Teen Counseling Limits OKd

  June 4, 1997, MAIN, page 1A, County Limits Teen Counseling

  March 30, 1997, METRO, Page 6B, Martin: County will still influence how teens are counseled about sex

  December 18, 1996, Metro, Page 1C, Funding Cut on Education for Gays Fails

  December 16, 1996, METRO, page 1C - Should Gay Sex Facts be Funded?


August 13, 1997
Section: METRO
Edition: THREE
Page: 1C


TEEN COUNSELING LIMITS OKD
MARY ELIZABETH DeANGELIS, Staff Writer

Starting next month, Mecklenburg County-funded counselors will need a parent's permission to talk to children about sexuality.

After months of confusion and criticism from many counselors and doctors, a majority of county commissioners voted Tuesday to move ahead with their new policy.

 

The policy says counselors are prohibited from ``promoting or endorsing any sexual acts'' that are illegal by N.C. statutes. That includes the state's ``crimes against nature'' law and one that prohibits prostitution.

And parents would have to be notified, in writing, when a child under 18 wants to talk to a counselor about sexuality. If the child starts talking about sexuality in a counseling session, the counselor can continue but must notify the parent later, according to the policy

Republican Bill James, who helped write the motion, said it was aimed at counselors who discuss homosexuality. He was supported by fellow Republicans Tom Bush, Joel Carter and George Higgins and Democrat Hoyle Martin.

``Do you realize in the north they're teaching children in the second grade about the homosexual lifestyle?'' Martin asked. ``You think I'm a bigot - that I'm crazy - because I call that wrong?''

Democrats Parks Helms, Lloyd Scher, Becky Carney and Darrel Williams voted against it. The four said they'd support the provision that bars counselors from endorsing illegal behavior but wouldn't go along with the parental notification.

``It has bothered me that you have not thought of the teen-agers,'' Carney told commissioners who supported the notification rule.

The vote came despite concerns from the Mecklenburg Medical Society, whose board wrote a letter urging commissioners to reconsider. The policy ``continues to restrict needed counseling services to the young people of our community, and poses potential harm to the health and welfare of those in need of those services,'' medical society President Charles Rich wrote to commissioners.

The counseling policy, which goes into effect Sept. 3, was part of a resolution that cut county funding to the Arts & Science Council because of commissioners' objections to gay themes and characters in plays.


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June 4, 1997
Section: MAIN NEWS
Edition: THREE
Page: 1A

COUNTY LIMITS TEEN SEX COUNSELING
MARY ELIZABETH DeANGELIS, Staff Writer

Mecklenburg teen-agers now need parents' permission to talk to a county-funded counselor about sex, pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.

Bitterly divided, county commissioners voted 5-4 Tuesday to order agencies to notify parents when children under 18 seek advice about sex. Agencies will also have to tell children and parents about the state law that bans sodomy or risk losing funding.

 

It is an amendment to the April 1 vote that cut off funding to the Arts & Science Council because it gave money to groups that portrayed homosexual themes.

County Manager Jerry Fox estimated that more than 50 county and nonprofit agencies, including those that work with runaways, pregnant teens, or abused children, could be affected.

More than a dozen people, including doctors and gay-rights activists, signed up Tuesday to speak in protest. They called it an anti-gay initiative that would betray and endanger young people who need professional help because they can't talk to parents.

One speaker, a lesbian, said that she tried to commit suicide as a teen-ager because she was depressed. A counselor helped her recover, she said. Other gays described parents who threatened or abused them because of their sexuality.

``It is a dream that all children have two loving parents who know how to speak about sexuality with them,'' said Dr. Carolyn Hart, a Charlotte pediatrician.

She said a counselor may be the only adult who inspires trust for some kids. ``Who are you to try to abolish that trust?'' she asked.

Commissioner Hoyle Martin, who proposed the resolution, said parents have a right to know what their children talk to counselors about. Martin, a Democrat, was backed by Republicans Bill James, Tom Bush, George Higgins and Joel Carter.

They're the same commissioners who passed the resolution to cut funding to the arts council.

Debbie Ware, a frequent critic of the arts council, was the lone speaker to support the resolution.

``If we think our children are capable of taking care of themselves, we might as well marry them at 10,'' Ware said. ``Do not usurp my authority as the parent of my daughter.''

Chairman Parks Helms and commissioners Darrel Williams, Becky Carney and Lloyd Scher - all Democrats - voted against both provisions.

``This is the same group that wants the government out of our lives. Now they say they want them in our bedrooms and on our counselors' chairs,'' Scher said of the five who supported the resolution.

The resolution included an exception for doctors, who are protected under confidentiality laws. Others would be made for counselors who feared for the youth's safety if parents were notified. In that case, the counselor would call the county health director for permission to talk to the youth without the parents.

Opponents said the resolution creates unrealistic boundaries. Would a troubled teen who ran away to a county-funded shelter at 2 a.m. have to wait to talk to a counselor until it was cleared with the health director?

If it's about sex, yes, under the new amendment, said county attorney Marvin Bethune.

Fox asked commissioners to delay enforcing the policy so his staff would have a chance to notify agencies. The county may also have to find new contract agencies if the ones that offer youth services won't go along with the rules, Fox said.

But Martin and the others voted not to wait.

``I don't think that's acceptable,'' Martin said. ``It's time we moved on.''


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March 30, 1997
Section: METRO
Edition: ONE-3
Page: 6B

MARTIN: COUNTY STILL WILL INFLUENCE HOW TEENS ARE COUNSELED ON SEX
JIM MORRILL, Staff Writer

Democrat Hoyle Martin said Saturday a proposed resolution before Mecklenburg County commissioners will affect how agencies counsel young people about their sexual orientation - even though it doesn't explicitly say so.

Martin said the intent of the resolution is to deny county money to agencies such as Planned Parenthood if they counsel young people about their sexual orientation in their parents' absence.

 

``In my mind, that's another scheme of the gay community to separate children from their parents,'' Martin said Saturday.

Martin, a Democrat, made the sanction clear in an earlier draft of the resolution. But a newer version, to be voted on Tuesday, removed any explicit reference to counseling.

Republican commissioner Tom Bush, who helped write the revision, said that means it's not there. What is there, he and Martin say, is language that means commissioners can make future funding conditional on anything they want - including parental involvement in sexual counseling sessions.

``There's no mischievous motive here,'' Bush said. ``Basically what I intended to do (in the revision) was delete all that stuff and deal with (it) when it comes up in the budget.

GOP commissioner Bill James, who supports the resolution, says the sanction ``still is there. It's just not in there directly as it was before.''

An Observer Poll last week showed that two of three Mecklenburg residents would support a counseling restriction.


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December 18, 1996
Section: METRO
Edition: THREE
Page: 1C

FUNDING CUT FOR EDUCATION ON GAYS FAILS
TAYLOR BATTEN, Staff Writer

Arts groups and sex education advocates can still talk about homosexuality in Mecklenburg County without having their finances punished.

Mecklenburg commissioners on Tuesday rejected, by a 5-4 vote, Republican Bill James' proposal to eliminate county funding to any agency that provides information about homosexuality and other ``crimes of nature.''

 

``All these people that come before us, proponents and opponents, are children of God,'' said Democrat Parks Helms. ``We are talking about the worth and dignity of people.''

James' argument went this way: Since state law makes homosexual sex, oral sex and other acts felonies, the county is violating the spirit of the law by funding agencies that present information about them without explicitly condemning them.

``It's a very clear issue. Comply with the law, or don't comply with the law,'' James said. ``This is a no-brainer.''

Not to a majority of commissioners, nor to a dozen speakers who called James' proposal ``absurd,'' ``homophobic'' and ``frightening.''

James and his supporters ``need to get out of my bedroom and every person's bedroom and go about solving the problems of this community,'' said Connie Vetter of Charlotte, who said she is a lesbian.

Had it passed, James' proposal could have affected the Charlotte-Mecklenburg schools, which are considering a comprehensive sexual education program that would include discussion of homosexuality. It also could have affected funding for the Mecklenburg Council on Adolescent Pregnancy and the Arts & Science Council.

Politics played as important a role in the final party-line vote as moral, legal or financial concerns.

Democrat Hoyle Martin, who said Sunday he would support James, voted against him despite agreeing with much of the proposal's substance. Martin said he thought the proposal went too far, and that there is a limited role agencies can play along with parents in sex education.

Martin's switch also allowed Tom Bush to vote with the other three Republicans, and avoid being a possible swing vote that might have put the policy in place.

Democrat Lloyd Scher accused Republicans of trying to force Bush to either vote with them or appear not to support conservative issues.

``This isn't about homosexuality. The main purpose for this is to do a scoreboard . . . to determine who's really a Republican and who's not,'' Scher said.

Some Charlotte citizens were offended by the political sideshow.

``This is an obvious attempt to pit conservative (commissioners) against moderates,'' said Christopher Knott, who spoke against the proposal. ``The lives of our youth are too valuable to use as pawns in this reprehensible manner.''

James, who said his proposal was not aimed at pinning down Bush, vowed to bring back parts of it that he thinks could pass with Martin's support. They included prohibiting any presentation of homosexuality in the schools or the arts.

Martin said homosexuality ``is a problem in this society.''

``If I had my way, we'd shove these people off the face of the earth. But that's not going to happen,'' Martin said. There is ``an aggressive tendency of some (homosexuals) to try to indoctrinate other people, particularly youth, into this lifestyle.''


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December 16, 1996
Section: METRO
Edition: THREE
Page: 1C

SHOULD GAY SEX FACTS BE FUNDED?
TAYLOR BATTEN, Staff Writer

Mecklenburg County commissioners on Tuesday will consider eliminating funding for any group that provides information about homosexuality, oral sex and other ``crimes against nature.''

Republican Bill James is trying to convince other commissioners that the county is indirectly breaking the law by funding groups that present information about acts that are illegal. At least two other commissioners support his idea.

 

``It's perversity, not diversity,'' James said.

Here's his argument: N.C. law makes homosexual sex, oral sex and other ``unnatural'' acts felonies. Groups that provide information about illegal acts are violating the spirit, if not the letter, of the law, and so should not receive public money.

``If an organization insists it's their right to advocate homosexuality, they can do it without public money,'' James said Sunday. ``A law is a law. I swore an oath to uphold the constitution of North Carolina and the general statutes.''

The top target on James's list: the Mecklenburg Council on Adolescent Pregnancy, which received $63,406 this year from the county. MCAP wants to offer comprehensive sexual education in public schools, which would include information about homosexuality and safe sex.

Neysa Dillon Brown, MCAP's board chairman, said the group would not change its position because of James' proposal.

``We know for a fact there are homosexual teen-agers in the school system, and teens that abstain and teens that are sexually active,'' Brown said. ``We feel we are a resource to teens in this community. We believe one should abstain. But our position is to be realistic.''

Brown says MCAP does not ``promote'' homosexuality, only educates children about it. James, however, says any discussion of the issue, without explicitly condemning it as illegal, is a form of advocacy.

James' proposal is not one of free speech. He does not argue that it should be illegal for groups to discuss alternative sexual styles. They should just do it without taxpayers' money, he says.

``If these groups feel that strongly about promoting homosexual behavior in all its deviant forms, they ought to go to the General Assembly and lobby to change the law,'' James said. ``You don't break the law; you change it.''

Which James himself is trying to do. James also will ask commissioners Tuesday to ask the legislature to create a statewide ban identical to the one he proposes for Mecklenburg.

James' proposal could affect the Charlotte-Mecklenburg schools, by cutting funding to them if they implement a comprehensive sex education curriculum, as they are discussing. It could also affect the Arts & Science Council, which receives county money and helped fund the Charlotte Repertory Theatre's presentation of ``Angels In America'' last summer. Actors simulated gay sex in the Pulitzer Prize-winning play.

``This is a waste of our time. We need to be dealing with the real problems in this community,'' Democrat Lloyd Scher said.

But James has the support of other county commissioners.

``Those rascals and those scalawags feeding at the public trough, especially that reprobate bunch that breaks the law, need to be cut off,'' said Republican Joel Carter.

Democrat Hoyle Martin said he would support James' proposal.

``It's a violation of God's law,'' Martin said. ``It's wrong, and government, with taxpayers' money, has no right to be supporting that sort of behavior.''


Copyright (c) 1996 The Charlotte Observer